[M.M.X.I.V. 9] Social periphery

This post is motivated by The Daily Post’s prompt:

“Tel [sic] us about the experience of being outside, looking in — however you’d like to interpret that.”

I could go off on a tangent about the typo, but I don’t want to do that.

Interestingly, this topic came up quite a bit during my vacation to Lincoln.  In conversations with a few high school friends and former teachers of mine, memories of social scenes in school came to the forefront.

Throughout middle school, most of my “friends” were my teachers.  I engaged in very little of the social drama of middle school, and in some sense, I feel that my Asperger syndrome gave me a shield against the drama that would have interfered with my learning.  Maybe I didn’t have good friendships out of middle school, but I was friendly and authentic, and being the “teachers’ pet” stereotype thankfully did not make any enemies for me.

In my early high school years, I was still mostly withdrawn from social contexts in school, perhaps of my own choice.  Once I started attending sporting events, however, my social window not only cracked open, but flung open.  The student-athletes, especially on the lower-level teams, were very appreciative of my enthusiasm toward them.  This did not directly enter me into any particular social circles, but it definitely opened me up to realizing that social contact with peers can be a good thing.

I wouldn’t say that I had any “close” friends in high school, though I did have some good acquaintances, oftentimes the student-athletes or the classmates that I had shared classes with, some even since fourth grade.  Yeah, I know that some of them will have known each other since early childhood, but I was four-plus years behind since I moved to Lincoln in fourth grade :p

And though I was never on the “inside” of any circles of friends, my enthusiasm for the sports teams, performance arts, and academic clubs, and my rudimentary social contact with my classmates, put me on the fringe of many different circles, as sort of a “limbo insider,” I would say.  In some sense, this is one of my biggest assets–I feel comfortable around most reasonable social circles if they will let me kibitz.  It is the happy medium–I can enjoy the group dynamics from the outside, but do not have to worry about the tensions that can arise.

And in some sense, some of these bonds have strengthened as I have moved to Chicago.  Facebook has definitely helped to maintain connections that I started in earlier years of schooling, but I feel the way to further a connection and move to the inside of a circle is to interact with that group in person.  This is one of the reasons why rendezvous with my classmates and former teachers is so important to me.

So, in summary, though I may sometimes seem like an outsider, my easygoing character seems to put me as close to an insider as you can get without being on the inside of many groups.

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Today is the ninth day of M.M.X.I.V.  That makes one week and two days.

I posted this late in the day, so as a courtesy, I will post links to other blogs that have addressed this prompt, as of 17:42 CST on 9 January 2014:

  1. Rent or removed? | A Teacher’s Blog
  2. The Great White… | The Jittery Goat
  3. Enjoying Outdoors | Dance with the Rain
  4. Daily Prompt: The Outsiders | My Outlook on the World
  5. Daily Prompt: The Outsiders | Under the Monkey Tree
  6. The Outsider | My Little Avalon
  7. Monica Spear’s Murder Shines Light on Venezuela’s Violent Crime/Se resalta la violencia venezolana con la muerte de Mónica Spear | DCMontreal: Blowing the Whistle on Society
  8. DP Daily prompt: The Outsiders | Sabethville
  9. One Night of Invisibility | likereadingontrains
  10. Cold Glass | Kate Murray
  11. The Outsiders | A mom’s blog
  12. Sounds from the Outside | pen . paper . storm
  13. Daily Prompt: The Outsiders | laura-in-china
  14. Daily Prompt: Outside | Not The Sword But The Pen
  15. The Outsiders | My Days In A Song
  16. Daily Prompt: The Outsiders | Incidents of a Dysfunctional Spraffer
  17. Downtown Chicago in the Early Hours | As I please
  18. Outsider | Lost in Adeline’s
  19. Look out for the outsiders | Sue’s Trifles
  20. daily prompt: the otsiders | aimanss…
  21. The Outsiders? | Geek Ergo Sum
  22. Outside Looking In | Momma Said There’d Be Days Like This
  23. The language of Heaven? | Tales of a slightly stressed Mother!
  24. worn | yi-ching lin photography
  25. 248. Outside Looking In | Barely Right of Center
  26. That Mirror Image: What has Changed | THE OVERCOMING
  27. The Outsiders | L5GN
  28. Outside | Rebecca Barray – Writer/Photographer
  29. Little Jimmy | Code Name Incog
  30. The Outsiders | The Story of a Guy
  31. Daily Prompt: The Outsider | Square One Notes
  32. Looking Inside | Flowers and Breezes
  33. Daily Prompt: The Outsiders | Finding Life
  34. Daily Prompt: Outside: Hunting Senior Portraits | Daily Prompt & Blogging Progress
  35. Staying Outside Helps | crookedeyebrows
  36. Losing Balance | Broken Light: A Photography Collective
  37. My Coorg Trip | all my likes
  38. The Outsiders | Shakespeare’s Sugar Spun Sister
  39. The Best Thing About Night Shifts | HEART KINDLING
  40. The Outsider in me | Life Love Lily
  41. Pennine Photography
  42. Children and Chocolate Outside: Daily Prompt | alienorajt
  43. DAILY PROMPT: FOREVER OUTSIDE, ALWAYS PEERING IN | SERENDIPITY
  44. Carte Blanche: | Shade Walker
  45. Outside But In | Lisa’s Kansa Muse ~ Dreamy abstraction in a 100 year old Four Square Farm House
  46. Daily Prompt: The Outsiders | Chronicles of an Anglo Swiss
  47. Daily Prompt: The Outsiders | Awl and Scribe
  48. 6 critical things I wish I knew three years ago about how to reduce cholesterol | The Curious Giraffe: Habits for Radiant Well-Being
  49. Resonate | Daily Prompt | Word Disorder
  50. Daily Prompt: The Outsiders | iChristian
  51. Daily Prompt: Outside in Ha Long Bay | Mishe en Place
  52. My New ‘Don’t Ask’ Policy | Just Visiting This Planet
  53. Out Back… | Haiku By Ku
  54. Daily Prompt: The Outsiders : Disfixional
  55. The magic window | Life is great
  56. WINTER WISH « MY WALL
  57. Daily Prompt: The Outsiders « Mama Bear Musings
  58. The Outsiders – | Randomlyabstract’s Blog
  59. looking in from outside | sarahscapes
  60. The Other Side | Retrofocus
  61. Swallowed ghosts | shame
  62. Daily Prompt: What it looks from the outside | My Endless Rants & Ramblings
  63. A Picture Metaphor of Depression |
  64. The To Be Continued… of Falling in Love | An Upturned Soul
  65. Outsider | johnny ojanpera
  66. Disassociation – Being the Outsider | Real Life Co.
  67. A little different… musings on blogging from the outside | Vampire Maman
  68. Always peering in… | Hope* the happy hugger
  69. Unclean!!!! Unclean? /The Outsider | I’m a Writer, Yes I Am
  70. The Outsiders | The Nameless One
  71. Blind | Stories from aside
  72. The Outsiders | dreaming of melville
  73. BLACK OUT | hastywords
  74. Outside | Northwest Frame of Mind
  75. Of being outside, looking in | Concentrate On Yourself
  76. Daily Prompt: The Outsiders | One Starving Activist
  77. I Didn’t Know I Wasn’t Welcome Here | Grilled Cheese (& Other Things That Make My World Go ‘Round)
  78. HAPnHAP
  79. Outside Look of a Dream | Passionate Dreaming
  80. Daily Prompt: The Outsiders | Basically Beyond Basic
  81. Door to the Past: Outside of Presidio Building | Exploring the world
  82. The Whims and Wishes of One Little Bug | meanderedwanderings
  83. Outsider: Struggles with Religious Identity | forgiveness for wanderers
  84. Outside? | Words ‘n Pics…
  85. The Outsiders | Wicked Words
  86. Outside to Inside.. | Dreams to Reality !
  87. Going Outside? | Photography Journal Blog
  88. Drops of Rain Outside | Crumbs Sugar Cookie and Pillow Featherbed Twins
  89. I saw me | Emovere
  90. Daily Prompt: Outside Looking In | Morrighan’s Muse
  91. Daily Prompt: The Outsiders | To Breathe is to Write
  92. PLAYING WITH DEATH | Standing Ovation, Seated
  93. An Outsider on Christmas Eve | melanielynngriffin
  94. The Outsiders:Daily Prompt | The Joy of Health Nutrition and Beauty
  95. In or Out? | Fictionalism
  96. The Stranger Inside Me | Dick-ta-tion
  97. This Outsider, Right Here | aMUSEing THINGS
  98. The outsiders | Life as a country bumpkin…not a city girl
  99. Daily Prompt: Outsiders | This Blog Needs A Title
  100. The Outsiders: The Undateables – Moving, Inspirational, Uplifting! | lynnesartandsoul
  101. Crashing the Party | Ginger’s Grocery
  102. Daily Prompt: The Outsiders | Shannon’s Creative Work
  103. Something in the air. | Climb Every Molehill
  104. Insider? Outsider? Depends. | Emotional Fitness
  105. Storefront Window | Nodus Tollens
  106. Outside looking in | Purple Rosemary
  107. From the Outside Looking in: Daily Prompt | babystepstowriting
  108. Frozen Falls – Jeroen’s Journal
  109. He Doesn’t Mind, But I Do
  110. Outsiders – how does it feel to be on the outside? | Laura’s Little Things
  111. Daily prompt: Misfit prime time | helen meikle’s scribblefest

16 thoughts on “[M.M.X.I.V. 9] Social periphery

  1. Helen, we’re on the same wavelength. Noah, great inventive phrase – a definite eye-catcher. What I love most is the reality that many (most??? ) ‘insiders’ in the popular culture sense are actually in limbo. Things change so quickly, especially in middle- and high-school. Nicely done. Thanks for sharing!!

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    • Thanks, Sarah! It is indeed interesting the “insiders” who are really in limbo, and the “outsiders” in limbo. I would rather be on the outside looking in than on the inside looking out. (Granted, I don’t follow much of popular culture.)

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  2. I love a good typo…makes us human. But props for the catch, unless of course it was intentional and they were trying to give us a stock tip. TEL (NYSE stick ticker symbol) – a global electronics component manufacturer.

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    • Good one. 🙂 I am always very particular about looking for spelling and grammatical errors. I can’t even keep my own rules of not using the backspace button when I do freewrites!

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    • Sue, thanks for reading! It is interesting sometimes how the little typos can that can get through, no matter how careful you are.

      When you said “suffered a bit for being a ‘Teacher’s pet’,” do you mean that your peers tended to lambaste you for it?

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      • In some cases teachers took advantage of me. For example, one teacher was regularly late for school leaving me (aged 17) to take the register of an unco-operative mixed age tutor group (all girls) including a child who threw chairs – fortunately not at people! I can’t imagine why I agreed to do it! Sue

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  3. Exactly the phrase I was going to highlight, Noah: like your style very much – such an honest and thoughtful piece. Unusually for me, that typo passed me by! Usually, I am fiendishly alert to such things and can easily go into acute anxiety after sending out a text with an inadvertent superfluous apostrophe or similar.
    Now following you!
    Alienora

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